I agree with you. Thematically the character works as a Wonder Woman/Amazons foil but the execution has indeed been botched thus far, very hamfisted,...
Or Peter died and was replaced (temporarily) by Doc Ock, or Mephisto dissolved the Spider-Marriage, or Aunt May's death in #400 (also temporary), or,...
I can safely assume you've never read "God Loves, Man Kills", "Kraven's Last Hunt", "The Killing Joke", "All-Star Superman", "Superior Spider-Man" or...
"They can be a great people Kal-El, they wish to be. They only lack the light to show the way. For this reason above all, their capacity for good, I have sent them you. My only son." - Jor-El