Originally Posted by
Fokken
Is Emma Frost the love of Scott's life? Is Jean's? I can't definitively say yes to either. Love is complex, and so too are his relationships with these two very complex women.
I do find it fascinating how we, as passionate fans, are so often inclined to draw lines in the sand to establish/proclaim be-all-end-all, flag-waving, solidarity with one another. ha ha.
I think that each of these women are indicative of who Scott was at the time of their respective relationships and give insight into the man he wants to be and/or became. We are, each of us, personalities that are shaped and altered over time, continually influenced and swayed by our relationships and environments.
One of my favorite musicals has a lyric that goes: "Who can say if I've been changed for the better, but, because I knew you I have been changed for good"
Jean and Emma, in many ways, are two halves of one whole and I think that neither of them would comfortably admit to being envious, on some level, of the other. The good girl and the bad girl. But we know, or ought to know, that such labels are never that cut and dry or black and WHITE.
Jean is the IT girl of the O5. Everyone was drawn to her, and I refuse to believe that it was solely because she was the only girl. There's more to her than simply her lady parts. She was Scott's first love and she was held up on a pedestal, and eventually, the pedestal Scott put her on, along with the circumstances of his death/return proved to be the undoing of their relationship.
Enter Emma Frost. Emma entered and pursued Scott at a very opportune time and proved to be what he needed at the time. And they fell in love. Does that devalue what he had with Jean? I would argue it doesn't. People change and people evolve and so too does love. Love can last forever, but that doesn't mean love remains unchanged.
Wow.
I got really ranty. Sorry all.
I'm very fond of Scemma. That period of their lives represents some of the stories I'm most fond of and I'm doubly appreciative of the man Scott became while with Emma, but I won't dismiss or undercut his life with Jean to polish the sparkle of Scemma.