As for Zeus, I fully acknowledge that he, as a father god, benefits from a patriarchal paradigm, and the myths he's featured in perpetuate that paradigm. Within that paradigm, Zeus is the father of nearly all the Olympians and nearly all the mythological heroes of the ancient world. If you need a hero from Greek myth, Zeus is nearly always the father. It's a cliche, but it's a cliche that is an essential pillar of Greek myth. Zeus, before all else, is the Father archetype. "Father" is a secondary element to the understanding of other male gods --even to gods that have had thousands of children, like Oceanus.
What I'm not doing is apologizing or excusing his behavior in the myths that describe his character. Zeus is a product of his time and the people who wrote him into existence. But so is everyone --including the Amazon people. And his paradigmatic behavior, from the perspective of a responsive, defiant matriarchy, is delicious to explore. Zeus would still be worshipped as the archetypal father, but instead be regarded as its qlippothic inverse --the deadbeat, the narcissist, impregnation-as-pestilence. He would be their Lucifer.
It makes the nature and circumstances of Hippolyte's pregnancy both suspect and disastrous to the trust between mother and daughter. I know you say this is contrived drama, but Diana's relationship with her mother is the most significant relationship in the entire Wonder Woman franchise. In Diana's eyes, her mother goes from being a hero so beloved by the gods they created for her an immortal island, a protected queendom, and even a child... to being a frightened, hiding sovereign, a devil's whore, and a liar. Working her way through the truth, wrestling with forgiveness, understanding her mother as a complex woman and finding there's nothing to forgive... is the greatest story never told, yet.
Outside of an Amazonian context, Zeus-fathered heroes defeat beasts and fade into obscurity, as they are projections of their Zeus' effect on the human world. Diana's parentage is kept secret, so her character is constructed with an entirely Amazonian philosophy. She chooses her path in life long before she learns who her father is, unlike Zeus-fathered heroes of Greek myth. Zeus has absolutely nothing to do with her drives and goals. Similarly, the Amazonian philosophy of love and truth is what drove Hippolyte to forgive Zeus. Hippolyte's choice to forgive transformed him from the Olympian Devil to the father of her child.
I've said all this stuff before. I don't expect you to agree, but does it make sense?