I could say the reverse. A guy who starts a war on a whim. does not give me any opportunity to give jor el any point. He has been so far antogonistic in literally every way. He shown as a cold, pragmatic individual with lots of issues and trauma.
As of now, Sam Lane feels more warm than jor el.that is saying something. Sam is supposed to be a military . He actually treated him like a kid. Hung out with him. Even had a dinner with the estranged daughter for the sake of her and her family. And they don't agree, ideologically similar to jor and kal. Meanwhile, jor el treats kal el like a boy. He was being condescending prick to him. Sam actually treated Lois as an individual. Any of this does not seem like good care giver.
And bendis himself said Jon returns because "grandpa is crazy". So how am I supposed to take that.