Very well said.I don't at all. I dislike the idea of her and Bruce - and Bette - all being first cousins. I think the changes to Jacob Kane border on character assassination, and change the dynamic in a way I find unappealing - formerly, he was supporting her decision (as he supported her when she came out); now it turns out he was manipulating her and had this whole secret agenda. I preferred Batwoman far less connected to the Batfamily, as opposed to what happened in Detective Comics.
What this all adds up to for me: I used to see her as a highly independent character, inspired by Batman but quite separate from him, whose life was guided by her own decisions. But now the story portrays her as a woman torn between two alpha-dog men. "Will she do things Batman's way, or Col. Kane's way? Will she follow her older cousin Bruce and his plans, or her father Jacob and his plans?"
Kate, make your own plans. Follow yourself. Create your own family. (I miss her former supporting cast, too.)
This is my opinion. But I know somebody will tell me I am "simply wrong."