Originally Posted by
Fokken
Its a curious concept, and one I'm definitely intrigued by, especially in today's climate. I'm a white male, living in America and I'm not thrilled about the weight and implication that comes with either of those quantifiers. haha. Neither gives me much sense of pride. haha. Historically, not super awesome.
Anywhoo, I heavily relate to this idea/movement to ...... cast off the culture surrounding you and preferring to define/redefine your own system of ideals and behaviors.
This idea of saying "To Hell with Societal Expectation". In this case, that expectation would be standard human behavior/expectation, etc. Its fascinating.
Simply because something is tradition, or "always been this way" or even just common -- the question of WHY and the question of DOES THIS HAVE VALUE resonates and continually swims around in my head.
Marriage. Home owning. Reproducing. Owning a car. Being an Adult. Climbing the Ladder. Etc Etc. Culturally, I cannot speak for the planet, but MY experience has been a strong conditioning to achieve these things, from birth. I couldn't avoid it. Its everywhere. In all forms of media. In family. In friends. Heavily ingrained in my culture. And then on top of all that, we can break these cultural expectations down even further with gender stereotypes and what's expected of you if you're a man or a woman, and how that should inform your life and how one defines success within that construct.
As a gay man (I speak for myself and myself alone. I do not presume to imply all gay men should or would feel as I do), this narrative that Hickman is crafting is hitting really close to home. I find myself increasingly challenged by the cultural expectations of heterosexual society, and how I could/should/ought to conform to said culture. Gay marriage for example. Simply because its an option now, should I get married? Why? The concept of marriage is an archaic heterosexual creation to establish dominance and ownership, often for non-romantic-gain -- be it power, finance, security, etc. And once I've wed, I'm to seek out adoption options because "that's what you do". Married people make babies and raise families and have houses and picket fences and work 9-5's and one cooks and cleans while the other "brings home the bacon".
I understand this desire to separate and recreate. I understand this notion of being part of society, then hitting puberty, changing, and subsequently living in fear -- both fear of judgement and fear of safety, and questioning how/if I would/will fit in society as this "new me".
I am by no means intending to minimize or insult anyone's lifestyle or how they choose to live, nor would I hope that my decisions to NOT "check boxes" on life's achievements check list be sternly judged, but I do understand what the X-Men are trying to achieve -- or at the very least, that they're considering alternatives. Its all about Joy vs Suffering, in my mind. What works for one person may not work for another and culture is a fascinating and tricky thing to explore. So if, in a post Krakoan world, Rogue and Remy are 100% on the monogamy train, then I say yay for them and follow your bliss. And if, in a post Krakoan world, Scott, Jean, Logan and Emma have found some unique understanding between the four of them that allows an exploration a lot of people may not understand or accept or agree with, then again I say, follow your bliss. If your behavior isn't harming anyone(?) then so be it. And if someone gets hurt, then they should examine further and redefine.
Grow. Learn. Evolve. Thrive.
Joy vs Suffering.
Jean made it LAW to protect human life, for it is precious and finite. Hopefully mutant society/culture can and will succeed where humanity has failed.