Thanks for all the reading recommendations! I think I'll start with the birth of venom, I'm intereseted in seening what happens with Peter after the whole secret wars thing. Then maybe I'll check out Mark Waids Captain America. I like his work on flash...I was in the same situation as you. So I asked and mostly searched by myself and here are a few small to medium size books I would recommand:
ORIGINE STORIES by Jeff Loeb
Daredevil: Yellow
Spider-Man: Blue
Hulk: Grey
Captain America: White
-> available as individual tpb or in a compiled HC
SPIDER-MAN
The Very Best of Spider-Man - Compilation of must read early stories
1.Amazin Fantasy #15 - first Siper-Man appearance
2.If this be my destiny... The Final Chapter - Amazing Spider-Man #33
3.Spider-Man no more - Amazing Spider-Man #50
4.The Kid Who Collects Spiderman - Amazing Spider-Man #248
5.Whatever Happened to Crusher Hogan? - Amazing Spider-Man #271
6.The Sand and the Fury - Amazing Spider-Man #317
7.Fathers and Sins - Amazing Spider-Man #365
8.The Osborn Legacy - Spectacular Spider-Man #189
Spider-Man: Wizard Masterpiece Edition - Compilation must read stories
1.Nothing Stops the Juggernaut - Amazing Spider-Man #229-230
2.Hyde in Plain Sight (aka Hyde & Seek) - Amazing Spider-Man #231-232
3.The Kid Who Collects Spider-Man - Amazing Spider-Man #248
4.Venom Strikes Back - Amazing Spider-Man #315-317
5.The Death of Jean DeWolff - Spectacular Spider-Man #107-110
Death of the Stacys - Two sad but very good stories
1.Spider-Man vs. Dr. Octopus/And Death shall come - Amazing Spider-Man #88-92
2.The Night Gwen Stacy Died - Amazing Spider-Man #121-122
Kraven's Last Hunt (Epic Collection) - Collects Spider-Man/Wolverin, The Wedding and the aclaimed Kraven's Last Hunt
1.Man Of The Year - The Amazing Spider-Man Annual #20
2.High Tide - Spider-Man versus Wolverin - prequel to The Hobgoblini Revealed
3.The Hobgoblin Revealed! - The Amazing Spider-Man #289
4.Mask - Web of Spider-Man #29 - sequel to The Hobgoblini Revealed
5.The Wedges of Sin - Web of Spider-Man #30 - sequel to The Hobgoblini Revealed
6.The Big Question - The Amazing Spider-Man #290 - prequel to The Wedding
7.Dark Journey - The Amazing Spider-Man #291 - prequel to The Wedding
8.Growing Pains - The Amazing Spider-Man #292 - prequel to The Wedding
9.The Wedding - The Amazing Spider-Man Annual #21
10.The Honeymoon - The Spectacular Spider-Man Annual #7 - Sadly not collected
11.Part 1: The Coffing - Web of Spider-Man #31
12.Part 2: Crawling - Amazing Spider-Man #293
13.Part 3: Descent - Peter Parker, The Spectacular Spider-Man #131
14.Part 4: Resurrection - Web of Spider-Man #32
15.Part 5: Thunder - Amazing Spider-Man #294
16.Part 6: Ascending - Peter Parker, The Spectacular Spider-Man #132
17.The Wedding of the Year - Marvel Age #54 - includes interviews, the Shea Stadium and the Newspaper Strip weddings
Birth of Venom - The main Venom stories
1.Invasion! - Marvel Super Heroes Secret Wars #8
2.The New Spider-Man - Amazing Spider-Man #252-259
3.Chance - Amazing Spider-Man #298-300
4.Return of Venom - Amazing Spider-Man #315-317
5.Monster Mash - Fantastic Four #274
6.Til Death Do Us Part! - Web of Spider-Man #1
X-MEN / WOLVERINE
X-Men: Wizard Masterpiece Edition - Most important sagas
X-Men: The Dark Phoenix Saga - Uncanny X-Men #135-137
Days Of Future Past - Uncanny X-Men #141-142
The Power of Proteus - Uncanny X-Men #126-128
Demon - Uncanny X-Men #143
Wolverine: Wizard Masterpiece Edition
Wendigo - Uncanny X-Men #139-140
Wolverine vs The Hulk - Incredible Hulk #340
Wolverine and Captain America in WWII - Uncanny X-Men #268
Viper & Silver Samurai - Uncanny X-Men #172-173
Wolverine: Old Man Logan - Wolverine Vol. 3 #66–72, Giant-Size Old Man Logan #1
Then it gets into massive sagas, not too easy to read
CAPTAIN AMERICA
Captain America: Man Out of Time by Mark Waid
Captain America by Ed Brubaker - If you have the courage, but it's a good read (includes the Winter Solder - yes like the movie)
HULK
Incredible Hulk Prelude to Planet Hulk - Incredible Hulk #88-91
Incredible Hulk: Planet Hulk - Incredible Hulk #92-105, Giant-Size Hulk #1
then World War Hulk - World War Hulk #1-5
DAREDEVIL
Daredevil by Frank Miller & Klaus Janson - One of the best super-hero comics run ever
Daredevil: The Man Without Fear - A great origin storye
Daredevil: Born Again - one of the best written comics
Have fun with all this to begin with !
Sorry I don't know what to read for other comics such as Iron Man, The Fanstastic Four or Silver Surfer.