Originally Posted by
zinderel
I do agree that, in the hands of a straight man, this would likely NOT be as harmlessly silly. But since it's just a silly thought exercise by a gay fan, I see no harm in fun.
I think we, as a community, need to stop attacking and cannibalizing our own for offenses we would take personally coming from non-queer folks. Dividing ourselves over semantics isn't helpful to ANYONE. If you are offended by 'queer' or 'queen' because you have been targeted with it as a slur, I understand and am sorry you had that happen to you. I have been there, myself. BELIEVE me.
But many, many of us are NOT offended when those words are used by others in the community, and many, many of us use those terms with great affection amongst ourselves. And we deserve to be able to speak freely, without having to worry that someone might overhear us and hate us for not talking the way they want us to talk, or being ways they don't want us to be. Right? Isn't that the POINT of LGBT+ liberation? We have, most of us, earned that right by being targets ourselves and not letting it damage us by reclaiming the slurs and wearingbthem with pride. Just because I CAN pass for straight if I am cautious doesn't mean I have never been verbally or physically assaulted for my queerness. Just because I can sass with slang with the best of us and embrace my non-heteronormative peers doesn't mean I don't have more to learn, going forward.
I just...getting offended over off-handed banter between 'family' is, to me, about the same as accusing a person of sexual harassment that you just overheard telling a dirty joke in the breakroom. If it isn't directed at you - or anyone else - as a slur, maybe let it roll off your back like water off a duck? We are not attacking you with words, we are not targeting you for discrimination. We are just having fun with 'family', tossing out slang and lingo, and fanboying over a fictional character and what could be, if everyone was a little less uptight about sexuality and self-expression.
Basically, not everything is worth getting offended over, we need to be wise and pick our battles to make sure we don't devalue our communal cause. Unfortunately for everyone, getting offended at the drop of a hat just makes people less likely to take ACTUAL offenses seriously.
Just my two cents.