Historically as far as the WW franchise is concerned.
Adhering to complete accuracy as far as the Greek myths are concerned is still not something Perez did. Otherwise Ares would indeed be their patron, the Amazons would be man haters and they would be lopping off one of their breasts. And Hippolyta would have been killed by Hercules. Since Marston was already upending the way that the Amazons were presented, doing the same to Aphrodite isn't much of a stretch. I think the modern/pop culture take on Aphrodite was fitting, because it distilled things down to a "love and wisdom vs. war" and "battle of the sexes, men are from Mars and women are from Venus" sort of thing. Making Aphrodite, one of the most classically feminine goddesses who rules over traditionally feminine attributes, so powerful fits in nicely with the Wonder Woman narrative. The patriarchal Greek myths painted her as a vain, horny and petty beauty queen, whereas the matriarchal narrative paints her as something else.
And while you are not wrong that Aphrodite and Athena just showed up in visions now and then, that's pretty much what all the Gods did in the Perez run. Show up and tell the Amazons to do things. hell, Athena had to tell Diana to enter the Contest when she was originally inclined to do it herself! So we have a gathering of goddesses still just doing what 1-2 were doing already. And one of them, the main one, got lost in the crowd and reduced to just giving the Amazons "the gift of love" (whatever that means) and a lock of her hair to Charon. And her great contribution to arming Wonder Woman is having her husband forge the Lasso, which is given powers by Hestia, instead of Aphrodite instructing the Amazons to forge it themselves from a magical item SHE gave them. A non-polytheistic take doesn't necessarily cut off an avenue for a larger scope in stories. Considering the world she is f