Great to have you back, Lady P, and agreed on all fronts.
Many of us who connect to smww are from that "other" box and I personally find it offensive what DC try to say about Kal and Diana. Like I say if the DCU was a reflection of the world...it surely means it is full of xenophobic subtext.
To suggest a good man and woman...I don't give a damn where they came from or grew up. Like all beings, I assume they all have the same needs, desires and fears as all. Culture or DNA is what DC attacks when they suggest the earth is doomed if they fall in love and need only humans to make them stay good, grounded or moral. I always found SM and WW two positive role models. I never in all my life thought they could not be good or not care for us and it was premised only on them being with their classic love interests. In fact who they dated never was a factor. If the characters decided never to date or marry...it never should even be an issue that they could not stay heroic. Now all of a sudden DC is rigidly pushing a narrative I find ridiculous and frankly demeaning to the two iconic characters. When I started with the Superfriends and played on the playground with my friends and all the girls wanted to be WW and the little boys was SM...no one would have the effrontery or be stupid enough to bring in their love interests to lecture us. It did not matter.
The characters were always whole and solid until DC decided they needed to be grounded by certain factors that seem to try to demonize the outsider aspect and needed to be sanitized by traditional , conservative troupes .
For any writer to suggest they were or are broken if they cannot be with certain supporting characters (who frankly does not even need to be around every moment or every day for these two to do their thing) ...it is imo damaging to the properties to reduce their motivations around one person etc. No one would ever turn around and say Batman is broken without Catwoman because they believe Batman is a hero no matter what and is incorruptible. No wonder he is number one. It has nothing to do with who he sleeps with.
SM & WW are supposed to be better than we are by example and heroes lives often are tested to a degree that they earn the title hero...else again...they just a man or woman with powers who really do not understand nor willing to truly sacrifice to a higher calling. I expect that level of honor, courage and selflessness in my SM and my WW.