It's doble standart. However, it isn't doble standart due to Bendis. It is doble standart, because there were consequences.
If Jon did not have any mishap, then people could take it as a joke (or just ignore Clark and Lois decisions).
However, we end up with Jon grown up. Then, things feel more serious.
Not to mention that people tend to highlight defects of things that displease them.