I can conclude it because she said it. In Hudlin, were they Wakandans doing it to other Wakandans?
Nakia said it wasn't a petty fling. Her wording is weird, but I took it to mean they were in a serous non fling relationship. Until the "Hoth converstion"
When was a Doras' voice ever stifled when not under Coates? They were the most respected and feared women in the country. Girls wanted to grow up to be them. But that only comes across in books that don't have Coates' name on it. lol. They didn't join the fight to protect the nation. They stood on the sidelines.