I can see why people would question the effectiveness of the Avengers as a team. Especially in the post Civil War-era where it seems like we have more events centered around heroes fighting each other rather than any wider threat. There was definitely a shift from grandeur events like the Infinity trilogy, the original Secret Wars, Onslaught, etc. to what we have now, which is our heroes barely getting along, to the point where they even go into someone's mind and erase their memory (not that I'm bitter, as a Cap fan, over that... much) to hush dissent within the ranks. Were I living in the wider Marvel Universe, as a regular human, I'd probably be thinking something along the lines of "get your @#$% together" about the superhero community. Writing-wise, it's actually a bit of a shame that Marvel has fallen into this trap (aka the constant stream of hero-vs-hero conflict). Because the best way for audiences to connect with a character is through their interactions with other characters. Isaac Asimov (the godfather of science fiction) once advised Gene Roddenberry of this when Roddenberry went to him with advice on how to get the audience to love Kirk as much as they did Spock, Asimov's solution being simple, make them friends, partners.
Excerpt from Asimov's letter to Roddenberry:
http://www.lettersofnote.com/2012/06...mpossible.html
And it's true. As readers we empathize with things in fictional characters that have meaning to us within our own lives. The bonds of friendship being one of the stronger more potent forces, as are all aspects and variances of love. This is something that Chip Zdarsky tapped into very well in his Invaders run, especially today's issue, reminding audiences that despite all the times they've argued, at the core of it all, Steve and Namor are brothers and love each other.
In my opinion, this is what made the book stand out for me. What made it memorable and one of my favorite pulls. While the plot was also interesting, it's the interpersonal relationships that seal the deal. Heart is something that is missing in a lot of books these days, and it's unfortunate.
Back to the Avengers, the team has the potential to be great, to be what the Marvel Universe earth needs, but, if we can just get over the focus on the negativity and focus a little more on the positive. Delve a little more into the Found Family trope, and a little more into the main motivation of each character being a genuine desire to help people, and that is a binding commonality (and the most important one) that links them all, then maybe we wouldn't have this current issue we have where we're questioning whether the Avengers are more toxic for each other than not. One really good, self-aware, writer/run would do wonders for the Avengers franchise (not dissing Aaron, he's a great writer, but he's kind of been all over the place with his run, I'm starting to get dizzy. And he's definitely more plot driven than character driven, which would be fine... if the Avengers didn't have years of being written as being as fractured as they have been).
As for Bruce... actually rooting for him in IH. He's not wrong.
I always attributed the three day proposal as Kirby and Lee reflecting on life as a soldier coming back from WW2. I mean, it is severely dated, this is true. But it was kind of, sort of, common for military men to meet someone and get married quickly back then, especially for a 40's guy like Steve who was really fresh off the ice when he met Sharon. And both Lee and Kirby were, themselves, veterans, who understood that culture. My own father was married prior to his service (he was Air Force), but my best friend's parents (dad is retired Navy) met on one of her dad's shore leaves while he was on active duty. Her mother is full blooded Tawainese, who, when they met, didn't speak a word of English. And yet they're still married to this day, so, it worked.
I'm definitely not defending that storyline, I always gave my daughter a mini-talk about how unrealistic the relationships were depicted in the Disney princess movies whenever she watched one as a younger child, considering most of the princesses barely knew the princes that they coveted. But I think the early Steve and Sharon relationship, back then, was a product of not just it's time, but also a thing common among the military men of WW2, sort of soldier-culture, a way to reaffirm life after war. Though it is hard to go back and read all that now, I agree. Especially as it contradicts Steve's modern characterization, which is someone who seems a bit gun-shy on the subject of marriage. I mean, Bernie proposed to him and his first answer, before she, rightly, called him to task on that answer, was no. He was afraid that marrying him would put a target on her back, and Bernie, unlike any of Steve's other girlfriends, did not have any combat training. As you pointed out, Sharon proposed as well, and we haven't seen it referenced again outside of Remender's run. So whatever rush Steve might have been in to get married when he first woke up, life in the modern times has seemingly cured him of it. Though, honestly, he and Sharon are as good as married. They've been living together long enough now that in the state of California they'd be considered common-law.
Agree with you, completely, on the subject of miscarriages. Or pregnancies as a whole. Especially as written by men.