I absolutely am viewing the neutron star feat as SMvFL, as it's a huge outlier for Thor. As for him wrecking a city in the first film, I'll have to check that out. At least to see what the definition of city is here. Thor hasn't shown city destroying capability in any other movie so that would also come under SMvFL. Sokovia has a ton of caveats on it.
I'll look at the Thor wakanda scene again too,as I don't remember him physically wrecking a ship the size of the one Carol easily took out. Nor does Thor have a strength feat like Carol's rocket scene.