I understand. I had this discussion on twitter. Someone brought up Creed being a good guy, and hating his character because of how disgusting he is. Another person agreed with them, then went on about the disgusting-ness of the pairing with Monet.
Myself & another fan argued that point by using Scemma as an example. The relationship started with her taking advantage of a broken man under guise of promised therapy to save his marriage, then starts screwing him in a plight to get over on his wife. Creed has done some screwed up crap, but he was good with Monet and never once did anything questionable to her. But Scemma, a relationship that started under VERY shady terms gets a lot of passes, with Emma being humanized in her feelings for a man she happened to fall for while taking advantage & using him to spite his wife.
Again with pairings, it brings up the gender double-standard. When it's women using, abusing, or taking advantage of men, it's a grey area or acceptable. When the gender gets reversed, you have numerous people raving, even if nothing bad was shown to be happening. There's a few exceptions. Scemma kinda started off being a prime example, but subverts it when Emma falls for him because then she's not the manipulator with the emotional detachment & power. When she falls for him, she becomes the sympathetic one where Scott more agency, and Emma was just love-sick and would accept him unconditionally & pines for him even when he dumped her. But again, had she been a man, she would never have gotten the chance to be painted as sympathetic, loving, and devoted at any point in that pairing.