Can't remember the specifics, but why would this make you "hate Alfred"?
How much of Jason's run as Robin
(pre-return as Red Hood) did you read when it was originally published? In the beginning, he was basically a Dick-lite, complete with circus aerialist parents killed by a crook (Killer Croc).
[NOTE: Their deaths were as a result of the Todds doing some snooping for Dick, who was still Robin back then.]
Post-CoIE, Jason's origin/background was changed where he was taken on by Batman after Jason stole tires off of the Batmobile.
In both versions, Jason never really shined as a Robin (due in part to writers who didn't want to deal with him) and was always trapped by the legacy of Dick, never moving beyond Dick's shadow. Alfred was probably telling Tim he had the potential to truly make the Robin identity his own and not just be a shadow of Dick's legacy.
What's so horrible / hateful about that?