Do you disagree with all or any of these things -- "He's Peter's father figure, role model, and the greatest love of May Parker's life."? I am simply saying a true thing when I point this out. Paul Jenkins, JMS, Roger Stern, Tom Defalco, J. M. DeMatteis, among others would agree with me too. Probably Dan Slott too. All of them, save Slott who wasn't interviewed at the time, said as much in Comic Creators on Spider-Man, and elsewhere too.
"He's Peter's father figure, role model, and the greatest love of May Parker's life." Do you disagree with that? Yes or no?
The reason for that is that the comics themselves footnoted, captioned, or mentioned the continuity stuff all over the place, whether in letter' columns, opening captions, or in-page recaps. This happened loads and loads of times. Whether it's Master Planner Saga, ASM #50, ASM #90 (Uncle Ben is mentioned right after George Stacy's death), and beyond that. The comics had loads and loads of page time to do that.When Marvel used to have their yellow-boxed character intros in every issue back in the '70s, the summation of Spidey's made no mention of Uncle Ben.
Compare that to the Sunday version of the Newspaper Strip which in terms of distribution and eyeballs, as Stan Lee pointed out, always had a wider distribution than ongoing comics, always mentioned Uncle Ben. And that was a newspaper strip that wasn't especially violent and dark compared to the ongoing comics.
Is Tom Holland's Peter the same character as that played by Tobey Maguire? Andrew Garfield? Or is he different? If the answer, according to you, is no...then it follows that we as an audience need to understand this version of Peter, this version of that character. Tom Holland is played a brand new version of Peter Parker, not the Peter Parker of any comics continuity or in continuation of the previous character.By now, Ben has been covered more than enough in the movies. Spider-Man can have many, many adventures without a single mention of Ben Parker.
The MCU Spider-Man is a teenager. What that means is that he's spent a greater portion of his life with Uncle Ben than without him. That's also true of the 616 Peter, who's around 25. The first 15 years of his life had Ben. The fact is Ben had a huge role in his formative years, the character's young so it's natural and logical, and organic for him to think of him or keep coming back to him. In the case of MCU, Peter is 16, so that means at most he's a year or so away from Ben's death. So it's less excusable for Ben to not be mentioned. In terms of psychological realism and so on, he does need to be mentioned or discussed.