Except it doesn't. Choosing to have a warriors death willingly and being kidnapped, raped, and killed against your will are not the same thing. I'm surprised This is even a thing I have to explain.
Your also saying that Shuri Essentially telling the MA to abandon the living Wakandans in the treehouses in their time of need is okay, yet her dying in combat and abandoning the remaining Wakandans in tro isn't and is worse...
The irony is strong with this one