No, I totally understand!! In fact, I'm 100% in the same boat!
See, my problem as an autistic reader is that I project too much onto these characters; empathising with them is actually how I manage my traumas and make sense of everyday life. I felt like an awful person for feeling disheartened and freaked out that 'this' was the only way. Like, because I was different, I had to go away--I had to give up on what I was fighting for in the first place. Like, "I don't want to leave because, no, this is my home. You don't get to take that away from me." if that makes sense?
You, however, don't see it that way and I'd like to ask how so? How do readers who might not be able to see it as you do...well, see it as you do!