If DC wants to write Bruce as an awful person then they are going to write him as an awful person, the characters around him have nothing to do with that fact. Lets not forget that the bat-family is also upset because of things that happened when Alfred was still alive, a character that is usually named as one of the people bringing out Bruce's better sides.
And we don't think he's a bad father because he doesn't spend all his time with his son, we think he's a bad father because he doesn't raise Damian at all right now. Nuance man, nuance.