The issue of reparations in America isn't
just about the Civil War. Ta-Nehisi Coates pointed that out in "The Case for Reparations".
The fact is that over a century after the Civil War, white America has periodically doled out benefits that have always excluded African-Americans from properly making use of them. After Civil War, you had Reconstruction and then 1876 which led to Jim Crow, as a result of that segregation African-Americans in the South were excluded from the polls, from voting and so on (which as witness recent events in Georgia, is by no means ancient history). What that means is that post-war policies in the south catered to helping homes, neighborhoods, careers and businesses in the South excluded African-Americans from having a voice in that and often, demonstrably so, at their expense. African-American kids didn't get access to the same education whites did, their libraries and infrastructure (yeah African-Americans didn't get to use the same libraries that white people did either) were worse, their drinking water wasn't up to snuff and so on, healthcare wasn't the same. Then later policies in American history, like the New Deal was deliberately implemented in the South in a manner to benefit whites over African-Americans. The GI Bill, second verse same as the first.
So essentially in your own individual case, your family may not have come out of the Civil War as one of the Confederates who kept pre-war privileges or consolidated the same, but at the same time, more or less your family was able to recover and advance and benefit the way African-American families weren't able to. Your Jim Crow era ancestors had better utilities than the first generation descendants of freedmen, they could vote with safety and stability and have their voices counted in a way African-Americans can't, they got a bigger share of the New Deal than others did, better access to schools, libraries, healthcare.
Even if that's not the case, even if you can demonstrate historical consistent poverty in your family, which can happen and is definitely true, I don't see why you are getting huffed about reparations, because it's not your money or wealth that's being siphoned away or doled away in any case. The US Government or State governments pay reparations using state funds and taxes...if your family has historically been very poor or below the tax line, then your money isn't going towards this. In fact considering that African-Americans pay more propety taxes than white families (
https://www.washingtonpost.com/busin...-property-tax/) this is a case of them getting their money returned rather than anyone else' being taken from them.