I couch things in lawyer speak because I'm not always certain about these things and often trying to work through difficult questions about tradeoffs and policy. If someone is not certain and pretending to be, it increases the chances that they are wrong, and we should all strive to be less wrong. For this reason, I typically object to criticism of wishywashy statements; it encourages people to be wrong.
And the question of Portland is a sensitive question about tradeoffs; what steps should the government be allowed to take to bring order? A wrinkle that hasn't been discussed is whether this is all playing into Trump's hands: people yell about Gestapo tactics and black baggings, the protests are renewed, and there's footage of riots in a majority-white liberal city within a blue state on the evening news.
With the comparison to other countries, one difference is that things do seem to be worse there, just in terms of the death rates.
I'll maintain that I didn't ask any loaded question, in that loaded question includes a potentially controversial assumption at its core. "Have you stopped beating your wife?" is a loaded question because to answer either way is to admit to spousal abuse. "Have you admitted that Trump is a great President?" would be another.
I do think in a discussion about the response to this (which your post asking how people would respond if this were happening in another country is a part of) it is relevant to consider the extent to which people are influenced by partisanship, and reacting to this strongly because of their priors.