Originally Posted by
Revolutionary_Jack
As far as the Spidey Mythos is concerned, no character is more important than Spider-Man. Not even Peter Parker.
Children across the world come to know Spider-Man far before they ever learn he is Peter Parker. Children play with toys, stickers, and other stuff, they see the face logo everywhere and so on. They know Spider-Man, the red-blue suit with face-covering mask far before they ever learn who he is. The appeal of Spider-Man at heart is rooted in his costume and his powers, it's rooted in the design of Steve Ditko more than the storytelling of Stan Lee. I mean check out the Spider-Man series made in Japan in the late 70s. Spider-Man became very popular there thanks to that show, and a lot of that was driven by the appeal of the costume. In terms of telling stories about Spider-Man, stories where Spider-Man fights bad guys and beats people up and so on, those stories don't really need Peter Parker to be told. Check out the 2000 Activision Spider-Man game where IIRC there isn't a single scene where you see Spider-Man without a mask in that game in any of the cutscenes.
Ultimately, people come to like Spider-Man far before they know who he is behind the mask. You can sell toys and merchandise (which is where most of the money generated by Spider-Man comes from) without consumers knowing he is Peter. So at heart, people are fans of Spider-Man more than they are Peter Parker. There's no intrinsic reason why the person behind the mask cannot be a married guy, or a teenager, or you know Japanese Supaidaman and so on. Because that has nothing to do with Spider-Man's transcendent appeal.
So no, as far as Spidey Mythos goes, I don't think Mary Jane is a more important character than Spider-Man. But the Spidey Mythos is not the same as the Peter Parker Mythos. Which brings me to the next point.
Peter without MJ is fine to read in the Lee-Ditko era, but after that not at all.
Consider the fact that the Spider-Man runs without MJ in that time (Wolfman, O'Neill) are the least popular and least respected runs on the character. The Lee-Ditko era is great but it ended and the fact is that you cannot go back to that era, it's not "factory settings" you can reset to and pull out of a hat. Spider-Man and his story grew, changed, and developed with the character. In the Lee-Ditko era, where the core of the story was pessimistic and dark, with Peter being a more shaded and gray character, having no friends, and being paranoid and on edge, that version of Peter (which by the way has never once been adapted in any version) is pretty compelling. But once Romita and others came in, the story became lighter and optimistic, and Mary Jane is the center of that, she represents the bright, optimistic, current of these stories. And Conway cemented and confirmed that in his run on ASM. And that version of ASM sold more than Ditko's run did.
The fact of the matter is that Peter Parker is almost never single. He's always in some relationship or the other. You saw that in BND and Slott's run where he cycles through 5-6 relationships in the course of his run (not including Superior of course). It's not in Peter's character to date many girls. Even Quesada said that would be out of character. So there's a limit, a cap on how many new girlfriends you can introduce. Stan Lee himself said this a few times and he felt that Spider-Man had to have a leading lady. Initially he believed Gwen could play that, but then he realized Mary Jane fit that better. So why waste people's time?
Peter without MJ is definitely not fun to read after they got married. The stories written before that, is fun to read because you know that eventually Peter got over that, and you get to see the development of Peter from his origin to the later character. Likewise, new stories set in the older continuities, like Spider-Man Blue or Untold Tales, that's fine, that's fun. But after they got married, the ongoing Peter Parker story is rooted in his emotional connection to her.
There's no real sustaining interest, no emotional connection to a version of Peter whose life is the way he is because of some catastrophically bad story like OMD. The emotional center of Spider-Man since BND is the deal with Mephisto, if and when that will be undone (Spencer's ASM#29 is about that). Everything else just spins wheels around that.