I dunno, I feel like the kids are often written as being in the wrong when they clash with Bruce. Not always and not on every level, but often. I can't speak for *every* conflict between Bruce and the kids of course, but there's plenty of "listen to your father you dolt, he's actually right" in the conflicts I've seen, or instances where the kids are the ones being jackasses. When Nightwing first got his solo, the first fight he had with Bruce was all on Dick; he threw the first punch and was the one being a d-bag while Bruce was trying to be chill. Or so it seems to me anyway, that *was* twenty years ago or something.
Ha! A fair point. But let's be real, the comments about Dick's ass come from his twitter fans, not DC.And it's ironic to hear how Bruce is supposedly written "like a high schooler's idea of what cool looks like" when some of the Batfamily are written in ways that scream "how do you do fellow kids, aren't these guys hip!" We gonna act like Jason Todd isn't every Edgelord teenage boy's angsty fantasy come true? Guns? Check. Willing to kill? Check. Tragic backstory? Check. Parental figure he doesn't get along with? Check. He ticks all the boxes a kid who "isn't going through a phase mom!" would love.
And then there's Dick, hey kids, this guy's younger and cooler than Bruce, EVERYBODY looooves him, he's the bestest leader ever, OMG look at his ass tee-hee, such a ladies man, super cool flipz and quipz, etc. I love him but yeah, it's pretty heavy handed.
But Jason being an extreme edgelord and Dick being a great guy or Damian being the embodiment of Batgod sensibilities don't negate the fact that Batman is now built to appeal to the lowest common denominator and the most base concept of cool.