Of course this is on editorial and the writers. Batman's not real and has no agency of his own. Bruce doesn't decide to be an a-hole to everyone, the writers decide that.
But it would take a lot more time to type all that out in every post about the subject. I'm pretty sure it's assumed that when any of us complain about a character, it's not the character we complain about but the way DC handles them. The only exception I can think of is when we discuss a character's basic, fundamental concept; something like Cyborg falling into the "emasculated black man" troupe or something.
Yeah, generally speaking I do think things are better with the family now than they were ten, fifteen years ago. Which doesn't mean things are good, but at least there's been some improvement. Did I not say that before? I thought I did?
And yeah, I'd take Bruce being a dick to the family a lot better (and I think a lot of fans would) if the family actually got treated decently by DC instead of being sacrificed at the Bat alter for the sake of Bruce's angst all the time. It's not *just* the dysfunctional family drama it's also the slap in the face insulting way the legacies often get treated on top of the dysfunctional family drama.
I know that, for people who are primarily Batman fans, people complaining about the legacies and the kids and this whole mess is annoying. But just like it's not Bruce's fault that DC writes him like a douche-waffle, it's not our fault that DC treats the legacies like roadkill.