I see what you're saying and your criticisms are all accurate (if dictated by norms of the time) but I can forgive it its context pretty easily. Most of all, though, I do genuinely wonder if Joss' clear hypocrisy was actually something he was aware of or did he specifically buy into the hype and cultivate a super liberal persona because he had trouble reconciling his intentions and his major issues with power dynamics and maybe even with women. None of this is to excuse his ghastly behaviour, you understand, which he should be held accountable for (even if I'm not convinced he should be "cancelled") and I really am just going off on a tangent but it's super interesting to view Buffy in the face of these revelations. Again, not to "cancel" it because it's still great regardless of its creator's ultimate intentions but it does give it a whole other layer.