By truth I mean that he's an alien from space. I think even we can all agree by the time she's pregnant with his child it's too late.
By truth I mean that he's an alien from space. I think even we can all agree by the time she's pregnant with his child it's too late.
Rules are for lesser men, Charlie - Grand Pa Joe ~ Willy Wonka & Chocolate Factory
Before proposing to marriage or having her move in.
When he wanted to advance their relationship once and for all.
He should tell her before the relationship becomes serious!! Being honest and upfront is always the best!!
They start dating: the normal thing is that clark starts dating girls in high school, if he told every girl, there would be no secret.
sex: more of the same, then NO.
marriage: they are supposed to share a life together, so YES.
But you have to keep in mind that Lois has secrets even when you're married, so Clark has no obligation to be honest.
Before proposing marriage, at the latest.
Last edited by lotchj; 09-27-2020 at 09:55 AM.
Naturally, when he's telling her that he's Superman.
Most adaptations don't "Superman being an alien" as a secret, so the main secret is that he's Superman.
In "Lois & Clark", Lois initially turned down his first proposal because he wasn't really ready to open up to her, similar to MJ turning down Peter.
Like it or not, nowadays it is normal that sex is just sex, you cannot tell your most important secrets (clark's secret puts his friends and family in danger) to anyone. I understand that there is talk of whether clark acts well or not by keeping his secret from lois, but we must not forget that in a relationship there are two people, and the relationship must be judged by the actions of both.
He should never keep his identity secret from
His close circle. The entire concept of a secret identity is so sleezy to me. He should never keep such a secret from his friends.
Before they start seriously dating, and well before they have sex for the first time.
He's not the type of character to let people in that close right away, and the dichotomy between his two personas is a key characteristic. Any difficulty that results in this is often self inflicted, but that's a neurotic character flaw that makes him interesting. Getting rid of it altogether fundamentally misses the point of Superman's character. He's not like Wonder Woman or Iron-Man who don't really need a secret ID, it's not an intrinsic part of their character the way it is for him.
It's sleazy if he is sleeping with Lois and knowingly deceiving her that he's two different people. Before they get to that point, keeping it from her and others is not sleazy.
Before they make any serious relationship progress. Anything more than a couple dates, he has to tell her. Waiting until after they've had sex or the proposal is too long, frankly. Once he realizes he definitely wants to have her be part of his life in a larger way (and that she wants to as well) then he actually has to let her into his life full-stop.