Originally Posted by
Revolutionary_Jack
Well you have the melodrama, trauma, constant betrayal that eats the found family from within. Look at the horrible things that has happend to Cyclops and the terrible things he has done to the people he's loved. Cyclops is an orphan, separated from his brother, finds out later Dad is a space-pirate, finds out even later that his mother was raped in captivity. On his own, he's cheated on both his wives, walked out on his kid, became a guerrila leader, broke with Xavier and whacked him. Wolverine has had a horrible hard life, suffering amnesia, torture, and pain. He has violence done to him and he's done violence in turn. He's even killed his evil kid Daken (though Krakoa brought him back).
Cyclops Wolverine Jean becoming a throuple is about the healthiest and happiest turn they could take with the lives they have led. But who knows how long that arrangement will last.
John Byrne once said something interesting, it's an example of someone describing what he thinks is a bug but is in fact a feature. He said once that Cyclops was concieved to be the normal standard hero who audiences could relate to. Same with Jean. But under Claremont, the normal characters (Scott, Jean) became extreme, wild, and bizarre with backstories and strange experiences piling on one over the other. Byrne said this was one of the reasons he left the X-Men, it gradually became so variant that there wasn't anyone normal or standard anymore and all were extreme personalities one way or another.
Byrne saw that as a flaw, but I see that as an accurate reflection on what Claremont brought to the X-Men. These are the Uncanny X-Men, they are meant to challenge your idea of normal, your sense of comfort, your sense of stability, the stuff that defines what you see as your home, your community and so on. It's about change and evolution. That means disruption, that means instability, and so on.