Nah, I was just screwing with you man. I know that you don't support molestation.
As for Sage, I'd say that this is a bigger crime on the part of Professor X. Good old Chuck had spy in the Hellfire Club, yet he didn't use that spy to help Jean Grey out during the Dark Phoenix Saga, and he let Archangel and Betsy get ambushed in issue #29 of X-Men. There are some other incidents that I'm sure that I am forgetting.
So really, this is really just some more retconning of Professor X being a bastard from the beginning of the X-Men.
But, you are right that it makes little sense that the X-Men would so easily accept Sage as a friend and teammate. And it really changes the way that you have to read Dark Phoenix Saga.
Nah, all that they went trough was severe injury, body alteration, mind control, death, and a few other tragedies.