After lamenting the loss of old CBR and finding Nu CBR an even better place for chatting. I do feel for those who miss their old hangouts. My problem being it was on and off "THEIR" old hangouts and not "OUR" old hangouts. Having tried multiple times to join but being ignored, sometimes textually bullied out. I in turn went troll to voice my dissatisfaction. Fighting fire with fire so to speak..but all it did was make me bitter, paranoid--I literally thought most posters were out to get me..because my friendly posts were ignored. the only response i could get at times were snarky retorts, debates and flat out name calling.
Not saying everyone engaged in flame wars or mental jousting or that i was entirely innocent.
The forum became increasingly NEGATIVE..as posters had to defend characters or books they enjoyed while others did not. Now some of the regulars would say it was the new peoples fault or those who overstep their bounds--but that at times that was biased opinion because what was really being said was " if you leave us alone to our groups there will be peace" a Phyrric victory for isolation.
There is a question at the end so this isn't entirely editorializing. The question I pose is this-->how can we ensure the unchecked negative occurrences wont return--as posters, as mods, etc?