I remember the Silver St. Cloud one. That is hilariously benign compared to his later antics. He's just yelling at a portrait in frustration and feels bad instantly, everyone does stuff like that in their life. Blowing up at Dick couldn't have been that bad because nobody cites it as an example of abuse compared to the post Crisis iteration punching Dick in the face after the death of Jason, or the antics that lead to OMACs and the deaths of countless Amazons and War Games. I have admittedly not read Outsiders and don't really have any desire to if it laid some of the seeds for his later incarnations.
Alfred's devotion is less problematic in the older comics. When he keeps coming back after **** like War Games, Murder/Fugitive or Infinite Crisis, it's a whole different story. Also a different context because he's been raising Bruce since he was a kid, so it comes across as a warped co-dependency that he was in position to prevent but didn't. And this example of pre-Crisis devotion kind of proves the retcon of Alfred raising him wasn't entirely necessary because the closeness was already there. And was much healthier.
And I have to reiterate what Tzigone also said. The dynamics changed and feel off, and I've yet to be convinced the change was for the better.
Then Alfred failed as a guardian if one attempt at intervention didn't work, because I doubt Thomas and martha would want their son to live a life as Batman. At least the modern Batman we're stuck with. If we factor in all his post-Crisis history, it's hard to imagine Bruce being any worse than he turned out without Alfred raising him. Phillip may be a minor, non-entity of a character but he clearly had it more on the ball than Pennyworth in the child rearing department.