If it's a case of you not liking my idea, I am totally cool with that. I may get defensive if you try to point out aspects that don't work, though. But I get not loiking my idea.
Roy was truly great in taking a hodgepodge of pase stories and making it all fit. I just did not like the extreme soap opera aspects of Alan's wives and love life, lost kids, etc. Personal preference, but although I did not care for it, it did nwork
And for a fictitious character that is pretty much the word of God.
I was not thinking of the wedding date as being that late. But there were still considerable instances of people staying in the closet well into the seventies and eighties. There may be a better term to use than "unpopular", and I apologize if I made the true prejudices seems less severe, but Alan was a relatively public figure and keeping his true sexuality hidden was a very natural action for the time.
I see Molly and Alan as being very close. They worked through initial misunderstandings to find they had a lot in common. You are correct in pointing out a wedding is not an important aspect of their relationship given current characterization. With characters having existed over decades and social habits having changed considerably faster than the characters themselves had, we're left with outdated mores. Plus, we also need to time Alan and Rose's actions to cause Jenn and Todd's birth fit so those kids have a young adult age in present time.
It's not easy and trying to work it out can be a mess, especially if you want something that will last for decades. Thank you for pointing out weaknesses in my idea. I still like it, but I realize it has its own challenges as will any plan to fit a decades long history for these characters.