From what I know, Daredevil and Spidey had a lot of team ups in the 90's right? They knew each other identities, heck - Daredevil even showed in that 2000's game for PSX and N64.
I don't understand why they can't be friends anymore and guest Starr I their respective books. It felt like Zdarsky wanted to, and in the end we got a Bro moment between them. I just hope it stays this way.