I'd just like more consistency about the ethics
I don't disagree. While John was a jerk, so were they, to almost everyone in the show.
I don't think it's ever justified to this degree. Especially when they're rude to anyone who doesn't worship their idol.
I think it's comparable enough in that these 2 actually don't act like the hero they look up/are in a relationship with is perfect or their actions are always right, because they're not.
It didn't really make sense. It's like none of them learned how their own actions put them in danger in the first place. Plus, it seemed like she was more capable than him when he was first introduced.