Originally Posted by
Blue22
As someone who does genuinely love Talia as a character...Yes, she didn't literally kill Damian but her actions were still directly responsible for his death. For all intents and purposes, she did kill him. Something he told her to her face ("Why did you kill me, Mother?"), and something that she didn't deny doing when he confronted her about it. As far as he's concerned, she did kill him. And she apparently feels the same way. She may not have been in her right mind (a revelation that I'm still not a fan of), she may not have intended for him to die (which honestly just made her look kinda stupid before the "I was actually not myself" reveal. Because...the fuck did you think was gonna happen?), but he did die. And it was because of her. The blame can be shared, but she's not free from any of it.
I am SO glad that the two seem to have a mostly positive relationship now, but there's a reason they sometimes remind me of Endeavor and Todoroki XD
That all being said, Bruce and Alfred also suck. For several reasons (including, but not limited to, what you've already brought up). Talia should never be the only one who gets the blame for Damian's problems. Because they definitely didn't stop with her. After going through four kids before Damian (and making so many mistakes with all of them) you would think that Bruce would have a handle on things by the fifth. But nope. He's still a fuck up. In fact he's kinda been fucking up with Damain worse than he did with Jason.
The closest thing Damian has to a good parental figure is Dick, but even he has his issues ("Robin can't force you to do anything anymore". Man, fuck you, Grayson)