Originally Posted by
sunofdarkchild
Roberto and Doug are also my preferred ships for her. The Kitty ship I can't really see because I see Kitty as more of her mother figure than anything. Xavier says as much in the Hutch issue of X-Men Unlimited. Sure she prefers having her friend back over anything, but she still misses telling Illyana bedtime stories and pinching her cheek as much as Piotr does. And that's why Illyana hasn't been looking for a mother figure the way she's always looked for a paternal figure in Xavier, Magneto, and finally Dr. Strange.
The overprotectiveness for Doug was always adorable, and it seems to me to be crystal clear that Robert was Illyana's first love in the 80s. But again, she'd never act on that because she's too afraid of herself, and I believe she actively encouraged Roberto to be afraid of her so there'd be no chance of ever acting on her feelings.
In terms of her sexuality I choose to interpret her as pansexual, so she could go for men or women.
With regards to Dani, I figured there are multiple reasons she's got no problem with Illyana being the leader and war captain instead of her. I'm sure she recognizes how Illyana was making hard calls that were too much for Dani back in the 80s. And I think the New Mutants as a whole have been carrying around a lot of guilt since they saw S'ym torturing Illyana as a child and lost her as a teammate immediately afterwards during Inferno. All of them really regret being so cruel to her in the early days. And if anyone would make the connection between how Illyana fought to protect them despite how they treated her and the lesson Xavier was trying to teach about protecting a world that hates and fears them, it would be Dani.