Agree they're not analogous - my point, which I should made clearer, is that people who come to the comics from the movies may not necessarily consider "secret identity that isn't shared with anyone" as a must have core concept, as has been previously discussed. They're used to versions of the characters who don't strictly maintain one.
But I'd argue that there are no bad reboot stories, just bad story executions. Those stories aren't well-regarded because they're...not good. Same for OMD, which was another attempt to undo continuity. It's a bad story. But that doesn't mean reboots can't be involving, engaging stories that get the reader on the reboot's side.
The other way to solve for the future is to grow and nurture legacy characters to stand along and eventually carry the weight of the universe on a go forward basis. The MCU appears to be taking two simultaneous approaches to the problem of rebooting and thus running the risk of "invalidating" the movies that came before: 1) multiverse - exhibit A: No Way Home, and 2) legacy and/or next gen.