She explicitly says she didn't hate him lol.
(ASM#23 vol 4).
Even if she died hating him, you couldn't exactly blame her for it too, she fucking hates Spider-Man for very understandable reasons, learning that the guy she loves is also the guy she hates, and she dies before she has enough time to process all of this, shit, it's a wonder she says she died only feeling betrayed.
Me neither, it actually does a disservice to Gwen to pretend she was something she was not.
She was a terribly written character yes, but unlike aunt May she actually did like Spider-Man at first and that was when they were dating, but Spidey's own poor decisions made her hate Spider-Man before she started to blame him for her father's death, while aunt May hated Spider-Man just, because the plot said so, and
then that senile old idiot thinks a terrorist like Otto is a good guy...