She explicitly says she didn't hate him lol.
(ASM#23 vol 4).
Even if she died hating him, you couldn't exactly blame her for it too, she fucking hates Spider-Man for very understandable reasons, learning that the guy she loves is also the guy she hates, and she dies before she has enough time to process all of this, ****, it's a wonder she says she died only feeling betrayed.
Me neither, it actually does a disservice to Gwen to pretend she was something she was not.
She was a terribly written character yes, but unlike aunt May she actually did like Spider-Man at first and that was when they were dating, but Spidey's own poor decisions made her hate Spider-Man before she started to blame him for her father's death, while aunt May hated Spider-Man just, because the plot said so, and
then that senile old idiot thinks a terrorist like Otto is a good guy...