How is it spite to want to see a favourite character treated as the character that made them your favourite in the first place? Your opinion seems to be that, simply because this character was called Ben, it absolutely, 100% HAS to have always been Ben - regardless of how poorly the character has been written or treated. Even to such a degree that when a writer who obviously genuinely loves the character gives us an easy out, it seems like you'd
still rather accept an awful, evil, damaged, unrecognisable Ben, rather than just writing off the last few years as a string of horrible writing choices made by people that seem to legitimately hate the character.
As for Janine (and indeed all of the events in Spidercide's life since CC), again DeMatteis's story still gives us that out. It's not a huge stretch to suggest when Spidercide saved Ben they shared a consciousness and Spidercide got all of Ben's memories. So this whole time, as far as Spidercide has been concerned, he
was Ben. Would that justify/diminish the idea of Janine being assaulted? That's something the story would have to address.
So... That would be about storytelling then, yes?
Seriously though, and as has already been mentioned more than once, Marvel did 'fix' Ben. And how long did that hold? Three and a half years. And it's not like he was even around much during that time. In terms of
significant Ben appearances, he was basically fixed in Spider-Geddon and then immediately ruined again in Beyond. That doesn't lend itself to a whole lot of faith that fixing
this Ben would make the slightest bit of difference in the long term. Or, as it turned out last time, even the short term!
This. Absolutely all of this.