It would be lovely if people recognized turning a female character who has had agency since her first appearance into a mindless meat puppet who is unable to fight off "a very mild sedative" - as MJ has to be convincing enough to pass as herself at the gala - and turning her into just an object to be rescued and just to make the hero sad/angry/possibly be his reward is playing into the highly sexist, highly problematic damsel in distress stereotype that mainstream media SHOULD be lightyears beyond. And to not see the sexism in this is problematic IMO.
And it would be lovely if others didn't use ad reductio absurdum fallacies and engaged in what people are actually expressing.
It's not that MJ is supposed to fight off Moira. It's not MJ can't be under Moira's control. Bad things happen to characters.
It's HOW MJ is portrayed in these situations. It's refusing to give MJ any agency and making her just a cardboard plot device so Spider-Man can team up with Wolverine. It's giving MJ a meek, submissive voice instead of her own, well established voice. We're not seeing MJ doing anything to self-rescue herself aside from using morse code to alert Doug Ramsey in Hellfire Gala, which is the absolute barest minimum and was forced by the story so the story can move to the next beat instead of being driven by character (if it was driven by character, MJ would have given Peter some sort of signal - used some phrase or done something that she knew would have alerted Peter but not Moira. It makes no sense for MJ to look to mutants she barely knows - and who could be in cahoots with Moira in the first place - for help when her longtime friend/often partner is RIGHT THERE).
MJ should be trying to figure out how to get out of this situation at every step of the way. Not just dragging her feet and then going along after a half-hearted protest. That's flat hackneyed writing. Of course, it's not helped by Zeb Wells's intransigent refusal to give Peter or Mary Jane an interior life so we don't know what they are thinking - because if he did, it would ruin his moldy Mystery Box.
Characters have, well, characterization. How Mary Jane responds to a situation should be different from Felicia Hardy should be different from Lois Lane should be different from Linda Park West.
But in Hellfire Gala and in the pages we have so far, Mary Jane acts just like a generic stereotyped helpless female victim. Her dialogue and actions could be given to any number of faceless damsels in distress. THAT's the issue.
In addition, Zeb Wells has a explicit, long established history of problematic writing for Mary Jane that cannot be denied.