Originally Posted by
TinkerSpider
Here's the problem:
MJ wasn't meant to be the love interest. She was meant to be an occasional comedic relief character, but she was so charasmatic and vibrant she stole every panel she was in. And since she wasn't meant to be the love interest, she wasn't forced into stereotypical boxes like Betty and Gwen to make her "suitable" for Peter - she was allowed to have agency and to be independent, to date around, to have a mind of her own and her own career/life aspirations which made her decades ahead of her time - and thus her early stories don't age nearly as horribly as Betty's and Gwen's early stories. And since she wasn't the love interest, no one worried about making her "likeable" - she was written as somewhat thoughtless and careless with other people's feelings, as flighty and self-absorbed - which meant there was plenty of room for a character arc allowing her to mature and grow, to show her true inner self over time.
In other words, MJ - and wholly by accident - was allowed to organically evolve alongside Peter. And as her character deepened, the parallels and contrasts with Peter were deepened, so that it's hard to conceive of another love interest who is so compatible for Peter on a personality and character level - to the point that even when MJ is written out of the book and new love interests were created, from Deb Whitman to Marcy Kane to Betty redux to Felicia to Carlie - writers inevitably end up bringing back MJ (even the writers who profess less than admiration for the character in their interviews) just because she is such the perfect foil for Peter. And inevitably, MJ does what MJ has done since her first full appearance in ASM 42 and she takes over the story - even when written poorly.
Another issue is that Peter's original supporting cast has been so decimated, MJ - along with Aunt May and possibly JJJ - is one of the very few Silver Age/early Bronze Age characters to still be (mostly) in her original role. She's a connection to Peter's early years and a testament to the character's growth - and an important piece of the seminal Death of Gwen Stacy story - and losing her is actively detrimental from a cohesive, historical point of view. MJ is also vital - she is the key to the heart and soul - to the arguably best Spider-Man story of all time, Kraven's Last Hunt. Like it or not, MJ is deeply embedded in the mythos - more so than Gwen, more so than Felicia - simply by virtue of how long she's been in the book and her presence in the classic stories (even post OMD, MJ is vital to stories that earn accolades, such as Spider-Island).
And of course, MJ was Stan Lee's ultimate choice for Peter, and it was Stan who wanted them to be married and did so in his comic strip, and then of course the marriage was returned to the comic strip.
The conditions that made MJ the overwhelming love interest just can't be replicated (although maybe Spencer was playing the very long game by turning Carlie into the goofball friend who could eventually step up when Peter loses MJ LOL). Also? Killing female characters just to make the male character sad is now much more frowned upon than it was when Gwen was killed, so fridging MJ just to have an unencumbered Peter would receive lots of outcry - probably even more today, with the advent of social media, than when she was "killed" by Michelinie/Byrne.
Could MJ be replaced as THE love interest? Sure, I guess, anything is possible. However, I voted no because the movement to replace MJ really isn't about replacing MJ, it's about creating a young, single Peter Parker who bounces around multiple girls - a Peter Parker who never really existed in 616 as Peter has been a serial monogamist from the very beginning and while multiple girls have been depicted as interested in him at the same time (like Liz and Betty arriving at Aunt May's, only to be put off by seeing the partically obscured MJ), Peter has always only dated one woman at a time. He thought MJ was attractive but he already had eyes for Gwen and he eagerly dated Gwen without looking back at MJ when the opportunity came. He was loyal to Felicia when MJ returned. He wasn't tempted by Felicia when she returned after his marriage to MJ.
If the goal is to make Peter Parker a perpetually lovelorn bachelor who can't decide who he wants to be with (or is tempted when the next pretty face shows up) then no one will ever replace MJ as the THE love interest - because having THE love interest is not what Marvel - for some wrongheaded reason that IMO appears to begin with "miso" and ends with "gyny" - wants. If Marvel wanted THE love interest, then they would finally realize they have one of the most popular, resonant, well-known to the general public comic book love interests of all time right in front of them in Mary Jane Watson. And it's really telling that Marvel keeps trying to force this conversation around MJ when DC appears to have very happily accepted Lois Lane's place in Clark Kent's/Superman's life.
And the other reason why it won't happen is because Marvel refuses to treat Mary Jane with respect but instead they go out of their way to minimize and actively disrespect her. First, there's the disparagement of MJ's looks for being too attractive - as if MJ wasn't designed by men for the male gaze in the first place so really, whose fault is that? Yet the character is so independent, fun and fully dimensional that she appeals to readers of all genders. Also, that's judging MJ only by her appearance, which is highly sexist. Second, there were many, many attempts to actively make MJ unlikeable and unsympathetic throughout Brand New Day and Dan Slott's run, which only backfired on the creators because contrary to what appears to be the belief in the Spider-office, readers aren't stupid and understand when characters are out of character. Zeb Wells is following in their/his previous footsteps by erasing all of MJ's vibrancy and personality, turning her into a catatonic housewife zombie who only comes to life to lecture Peter about responsibility, and that has vastly backfired on him.
If Marvel truly wants to remove Mary Jane from the narrative, they will have to do so in a respectful manner that honors the character and her beloved place in Peter's life. They will need to respect the deep fandom she has earned over decades. But so far, they have proved themselves catastrophically incapable of doing so, choosing instead to tear down the character and actively write her OOC and as a sexist stereotype - MJ Watson! One of the few female comic characters to have agency since her first appearance! - which only puts readers' backs up and turns the reader against the story.
So Marvel would need to swallow its pride - and misogyny, where MJ is concerned - but I just don't see that happening. Not while the current editorial is still in place. Quesada may have been let go, but members of the OMD creative junta are still employed.