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That is a nice article.
It illustrates well how the structures supporting racism have changed.
Until the time of the Holocaust, there was the widespread belief that people from different ethnicities were different in some essential way, and some were inferior. The 19th century and early 20th century actually had a lot of "science" and "logic" backing this up. Also, a lot of bloodline traditions and philosophy about the influence of the "blood". Post World War II, such theories became exposed as the poison they are.
A lot of people still think racism is restricted to that. The Jewish kid probably does. And since nowadays only a fringe minority supports those ideas, then supposedly there is no racism.
Of course, there are the lingering effects of the earlier ideas. Some of those effects linger for centuries. It's not like some fantasy movie where the Evil Overlord's death immediately heals the land.
Also, and more importantly, there are many people who just don't care. They're not like the earlier racists that actively believed in some fantasy about purer blood or a white society. They may have nothing against blacks or any other race, they don't think blacks are inferior, but they still don't care enough to feel bothered that other people experience injustice in their daily lives.
It's a failure of empathy. Compassion is then mocked as being a bleeding heart. People who talk about injustice are "locked into victim mindset".
The older right-wingers were conformists. The new ones are individualists with an ethos of "strength", of "logic", of enlighted self-sufficiency (a prettier name for Selfshiness, that still carry negative connotation despite their attempts to redeem it as a virtue). All of those "virtues" don't leave a lot of space for compassion and for putting yourself into other people's shoes.
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I think you missed the part about how
A) tone-policing specifically refers to when members of an oppressing group (in the case of the linked article, white people) tell members of targeted groups that in order to be heard they must express their needs/issues related to oppression in ways the oppressing group finds polite/approachable/respective. the catch-22 of course, being that if no one raises any hell over a topic, the flip side is provided "well if it was really a big deal to you you'd be more vocal..." and
B) none of these things were happening in the example you provided. in this case the targeted/oppressive identities were flipped and they were certainly not discussing an issue about how the man was being oppressed/experiencing pain.
Agree to disagree!
Thank you.
Yeah, it's disappointing, but not that surprising, that most of this discussion has come down to defending or attacking this one guy. It's not about that one guy. Heck, it's likely that he's a nice guy who wasn't even aware that his assumption that women don't know anything about sports is insulting and sexist.
The problem is with the broad social/cultural attitudes that this was just one small example of, where sexist stereotypes are pervasive, ingrained, and unquestioned, and cause people to say and do things that they may not even understand are hurtful.
I think it's a little disappointing that your immediate assumption is that he PROBABLY would've thought she was being bitch, gotten defensive and weird and maybe done something weird. I think you're unfairly assuming the worst about someone who not one post earlier you referred to as likely being a nice guy.
She isn't angry. She isn't judging. And he's a nice guy who probably wouldn't have reacted rationally and instead would have chewed her head off.
That is colossally unfair.
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The entire argument hangs on this exact type of minutia. It all hangs on her personal interpretation of the "hows-and-whys" of his action during their interaction. Which I was trying to point out are honestly unknown. Do I think sexism is bad? Yep. Do I think this article does anything? I guess not, especially because the "crisis," if you will, isn't much as one. Chalk that up to MY socialization - I guess I enjoy sensational reading. Or maybe I'm a horrible sexist. Or maybe I don't get bothered by much at all anymore because of some tragic near-death experience. The point is moot - you've already made a judgment:
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What if he wasn't a nice guy, and decided to beat her up and rape her because of what she said? Men threaten to do that a lot it seems. I'm not judging, just understanding the kinds of things women have to worry about that we don't. Confronting a guy in a part for saying something offensive might not be the best idea.
Someone keeps sniping my comments so I'll say this as blandly and succinctly as possible.
I also find that to be an interesting point of view as the author chose to call for the action of people who experience such sexism to stand up for themselves, but you're saying the opposite. Which should it be? After all on a scale of 1-10 in misogyny this was about a 2-3.
Expecting someone to assault and rape a woman in front of his own wife for an innocuous "Dude, I know who the Blazers are" is the epitome of "That escallated fast!"
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