Actually, I explicitly stated that I wasn't attempting to make wider judgements about your personal values.
The idea that "leading someone on" is a concept that is inequitably applied to women - and is therefore a loaded phrase - doesn't rely on it always being in relation to rape. In fact acting as though it does can be a distraction tactic. I mention that the phrase is loaded, and you act like I'm accusing you of condoning rape. That's obviously an outrageous accusation considering your statements, and therefore discredits my position.
So let me reassure you that for all I strongly disagree with your interpretation of this story, and the implications of the way you chose to describe it, at no point did I think you were defending rape.