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It comes off that way, and at times, it is.
But honestly, the other end of the spectrum holds far more weight because those are the ones who do get the power (see Clarence Thomas). Privileging whiteness and disregarding/belittling blackness. And I say this as a guy who was called an Uncle Tom plenty of times. Or "one of the good ones". Or whatever version of that.
And it shows up in so many ways. I'll give to the purest example I can. My dad, a Nigerian Immigrant, went to a Historically Black College. He never told me this until well into my Senior Year of college (I went to a very Predominantly White Institution). He didn't want me to deal with the stigma that came from going to a HBCU.
I heard people, especially black people who went to Predominantly White Institutions, look down on these schools so often. They are downplayed by society daily, despite their prestige. When I found this out, it freakin hurt. It hurt that he hid that fact, it hurt because all those times when people were talking shit about HBCUs, they were talking shit about my dad's education. And he internalized it. It hurt because my parents wanted me to embrace "mainstream" (see white) education because they knew I'd have a better chance to succeed.
That's why I stopped getting defensive about whether or not I'm "too white" or "too black", and decided to embrace my culture my own way. To me, "progress" is no longer about inclusion into exclusionary, white dominated spaces where I won't be equal, no matter how much I work, beg, or complain. No, it's about creating new ones, or working in ones where I know my agency will be met with support and collaboration.
Some say black people need to suit up, smarten up, and be more like their white or sometimes Asian counterparts. I disagree to some degree. We need to build and invest in ourselves, instead of constantly taking loans from them. And I see that way too often, both by poor black people and affluent. We should be looking for agency; financially, artistically, and socially.