I get what you are saying. him being pan etc is fine, him making that the core of his personality, not so much. I know there are some people who do make their sexuality or whatever like, the core of their identity, it is the primary aspect of their lives and every other aspect of themselves seems to hang off that in some way. I don't get it myself, but I have known people like that, so it wouldn't bother me if there were a character like that, i guess, just.... not Loki. Because that doesn't fit who he is. He is a multifaceted character with many many aspects. Of which, really, his love life is often one of the LEAST important. It's just not something that has ever seemed to be at the forefront of his mind much at all, and i can't see why it would begin to be now, after so many years of his life. That's not to say he shouldn't be involved with anyone, he's never been presented as asexual, just not particularly motivated by that, so i am fine with Zelma here, for instance. But he has never defined himself by who he is attracted to, or what form they happen to be wearing, it's just not something that seemed important to him. He was always much more concerned with his assorted plots and schemes, general chaos and mischief, his family, Asgard, magic... more recently, his role. Those all seemed far more important to him than who he slept with or what skin he was wearing.
And that doesn't just go for things like sexuality, gender identity or stuff like that. like, ok, I am, or was, a big fan of Nightcrawler. He has always been Catholic, and while as an atheist that wasn't something I particularly cared about, but not a problem for me, either, and he had so many other facets that i liked. then... they made him a priest. all of a sudden, his religion overshadowed every other aspect of the character in the hands of most writers. there were exceptions, but more often than not, it was priest this, Catholic that, on and on, ugh, it was awful. All these other aspects of his character just... were forgotten. And it was such a shame. I would not want that to happen to Loki as well where this rich character he's developed into with so many facets is reduced to just a couple.
And I think Cates realizes it's awful. It seemed quite deliberate, and he even had Strange admit to himself in the captions that he was crossing lines, and that he was wrong about Loki. I think what will end up happening is that both Strange and Loki will realize they are more similar than they'd probably like to admit, and see aspects of themselves in the other that are.... not so great, and both will kind of learn from it.
but yes, some of the fan response is a bit frustrating, but also interesting. It really shows that a character's traditional role absolutely can colour a reader's perception of a character's actions a whole lot. Loki did NOTHING WRONG this issue. NOTHING. (ok, searching for the spell MIGHT be bad, but we don't know that for sure) Bats was quite obviously an accident. But I definitely have seen some people react as if it were deliberate. Conversely, Strange crossed several lines, and while yes, I can get where he is coming from, and he is still sympathetic, I think, he still did some shitty things, and he's getting a free pass from most.
Selfish, yes, and definitely shady, but i do think he probably has something largely good planned. Or at least what he sees as good. I think he may want to fix magic. But it probably won't work the way he thinks it will.
And it would be ambitious for most characters to become a god of magic. but... i mean, he's already a god... i think this would be a step up from god of lies, but still more a lateral move, it's not as audacious as like, Strange attempting the same thing.
Yeah, I context matters, and I am absolutely in agreement that there needs to be representation. and, actually, Norse culture had, well, not quite modern takes on sexuality, but certainly more open than what most would assume, so it totally does fit that Loki could be bi and non-binary, I am not saying those shouldn't be aspects of his character. I just don't want it to come at the expense of a good story or have it eclipse other, already existing, aspects of a character.With all that said, some people find comfort in reading about people who have undergone experiences with similar prejudice. Ideally, the degree to which these traits affect characters should just mean the difference between having a character who belongs to a Conservative family and has to come to terms with their sexuality (something that's a valid story but I wouldn't like as much) vs having a gay character who, say, lives in a liberal part of the country and is comfortable with their sexuality, finding a significant other. I also definitely think we need more minority representation and that most excuses against including said minorities don't apply. Despite our typical insistence to base fantasy worlds off of medieval Europe (and likely not that accurate a historical representation), any world that has dragons can also have blended human/non-human populations and more advanced views of gender and sexuality. In fact, one of these is rather more probable than the other, and it's not the dragons.