If Steve had merely approached Diana and said "Hey, let me take this guy. ARGUS can hold him." then that would not be personal. The fact that, during his sales pitch, he deemed it appropriate to get in Superman's face and try to denigrate him is what made it personal.
And? Once again: Superman had highly advanced containment cells from which no prisoner had ever escaped. Neither he, nor Diana, had any reason to think they couldn't hold Zod. And even if they knew ARGUS could do a better job holding him? They still didn't want to turn a Kryptonian over to the same US government that tried to turn Superman into a lab rat. Best case? Zod gets tortured to death as the government tries to find newer, better ways to kill Kryptonians. Worst case? Amanda Waller figures out how to take control of Zod and use him as her personal weapon.
Handing Zod over to ARGUS was not an option, given that ARGUS and the government they serve have proven untrustworthy.
We saw him whine about being dumped. We saw him act like a douche toward Diana's new boyfriend. Totally in-character.Steve still a cool down guy, even when constantine was trolling him about being dumped by WW he was calm. he is not a jerk, nothing on his appearences suggest that. so yeah OOC
Diana clearly didn't view Superman's actions as "chauvinist" or "patriarch." He even acknowledged that he knew full well that Diana could have handled the situation. She said she knew that he knew, but she enjoyed watching him smack down Apollo.So WW was okay with macho display because she thought it was funny? so she is ok with chauvinist and patriarch behavior as long as it is funny. An dit later just screw up they fight with faora and zod, as apollo energize them.
Likewise, Diana didn't say anything about viewing Steve's actions as chauvinist. She just wasn't impressed by his attempts to intimidate her new boyfriend. This isn't a "Who was sexist and who wasn't" debate.
Clark didn't do anything worse than Steve did. They both talked tough. Superman only resorted to violence after Apollo struck the first blow.so steve was right and she rejects him, because he is macho, but hen when clark does it in a much worse way and he was wrong she accepts and watches it like was some weak maiden. WW really feminist here
Diana didn't "watch like some weak maiden." She watched like a woman who was about to enjoy watching Apollo get his ass kicked.
It's a typtical human condition IN THE REAL WORLD.
Comics aren't the real world. They are the realm of fantasy. Insisting that every character in comics reflect your personal views is a wrongheaded way to look at fiction.