You do realize that Bobby had a thing with Mystique right? Whom is arguably just as bad, if not worse than Daken. I also think most people here would agree that his recent solo has done good things for his character development but your mileage will always vary. I don’t think him dating Daken would be a “deal breaker” but I do understand that it’s not everyone’s cup of tea.
Well said, how we view relationships in fiction, and how they develop in fiction, isn’t always the same as expectations within reality. Hero/Antagonist ships are super common and usually a lot of fun. Batman/Catwoman, Spidey/Black Cat, etc, are popular dynamics. Bobby/Daken is polarizing but I see the appeal, there’s potential for character development on both ends, especially with both characters’ history with grappling with certain issues pertaining to self worth and dysfunctional childhoods and family dynamics. They also have very different queer identities/experiences and seeing that intersection could be interesting.