The more I think about it, the more I believe this has to be Wrath. He's just being too cray-cray here. And, while another mind-control type story is overdone and contrived in its own right, its still better than him legitimately just being this much of a jerk. Its out-of-character, he's never treated Diana like this before. And frankly, with this amount of time of reflection after Lois's outing, its out-of-character for him to still rip on her too. Granted the rift there is far, far more believable, but he's still better than this.
Maybe we'll get a Superman III homage, and this story ends with a psycho side splitting off and they fight.
In regards to Lois, I just think the common online narrative that she's being treated poorly and isn't like within DC, blah blah blah, is coloring the judgment of her here. She does NOTHING wrong. She's the victim here, She's the one being disrespected, and I'm supposed to feel she's being disrespectful by shoving some government official overstepping his bounds into a chair? Nyyyope. I can be as big a critic as anyone when I think Lois is written as TOO aggressive to the point of unlikeability, but this was nothing but a reminder of how fun she can be as a character.