How many people lie to themselves and everyone else about their sexuality, in order to make themselves feel better?
I can't be the only one.
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What I mean is, I sometimes call myself an asexual, but when I'm honest with myself the truth is that I'm just afraid of women. Always have been.
Sometimes I try to blame it on an abusive mother, but even that is a lie. She wasn't that violent.
I just wonder how common that is. People claiming a sexuality label to cover up deep seated issues.
I did for years during middle school and high school. But it didn't make me feel better, it made me numb. If I had known then what I know now, I would've accepted myself as the people I was afraid of disappointing (family and close friends, those who matter) have accepted me when I came out as an adult.
I couldn't speak to how common it is. But it does happen.
Also, an abusive or neglectful parent may not have been "that violent" compared to people who persistently physically abused, or molested or criminally neglected their children. But it doesn't negate the harm or violence it propagates in the child's psyche.
My totally judgmental suspicion is that a lot of the more basic sexual identities claimed are because they're generally-true or true enough. I know folks who avoid claiming bisexual, based not on attraction, but which gender they're with just then. I know people who just keep it private and let people think/suppose whatever. Some actively hide for social reasons, including physical safety.
But, it depends on who you are and where in the world, too.
I'm still annoyed at Henry Rollins saying if he'd been gay, he would have come out loud at twelve, because while he's a big tough guy, at twelve he was in boarding school sleeping & showering with large groups of boys in a time/place where you'd get electroschock for being out. To me, that's unfair to those out or otherwise who were at real risk in that era.
okay someone added I and A to the acronym. Somebody help me out here..what does those letters stand for?